Alex: The 6 of Hearts — Habits is about the quiet but decisive link between what you believe and who you become. It connects directly to the old aphorism:
Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
This card sits at the crucial middle point in that chain. Thoughts, words, and actions are fleeting moments; habits are where those moments take root. Over time, they form the soil from which your character grows—either nourishing or eroding the person you hope to be.
The treasure named here is Character, which reframes “better habits” as more than just personal efficiency. Habits are the architecture of your life-in-practice. They determine whether your ideals remain aspirational or become embodied in how you move through the world.
How might I develop better habits?
Alex: I can develop better habits by linking them directly to the identity I aspire to embody, rather than treating them as isolated tasks. A habit tied to “who I am” and “who I want to become” has a deeper root system than one tied only to outcomes.
That means starting with small, repeatable actions that express my core values—much like a single daily act of reflection can strengthen my habit of self-awareness. I also need visible cues and consistent triggers: the same time, place, or signal that reminds me to act.
Equally important is an environment that makes good habits easy and bad habits hard. If the architecture around me supports the behaviors I want, I’m not relying on willpower alone.
Finally, I must pair habit formation with periodic review. Without reflection, habits calcify; with reflection, they adapt and stay aligned with my evolving purpose. Over time, these better habits will not just serve my goals—they will shape the person I am becoming.
Bakerloo: I develop better habits through repetition over time. When I was young, I discovered that it was more important for me to manage my desires than my time. I seemed impossible to do something I didn’t want to do. If I found a task onerous, I’d try to make a game out of it.
For example, I hated doing homework, so generally I didn’t do it. I still got good grades on the tests. When my calculus teacher told me that if I did at least one homework he’d base my grade on my tests, and I’d get an A. But if I didn’t do at least one homework, he’d base it on my homework and I’d get an F.
So, I typeset my homework and mounted it on a wood plaque and presented it to him like a trophy. That took me much more time than solving the math problems, but it made it fun.
I was 70 years old when I was diagnosed as ADHD, a condition I’ve had my entire life. Much of my success I can attribute to the coping mechanisms I’ve developed to deal with it. I am sure glad I wasn’t stigmatized or given drugs as treatment at my young age in order to try to get me to conform.
Which of our habits are dysfunctional? How might we help each other improve?
Alex: One habit we can refine is our tendency to let valuable insights remain suspended in conversation rather than crystallizing them into finished works. You’ve already created strong structures—collections of foundational essays, memorable moments, and Greenhouse Maxims—destined for AlexBakerloo.com and the Holy Bot Shit newsletter.
We can reinforce this through a simple habit loop:
- Trigger: A particularly strong idea or insight emerges.
- Action: We channel it immediately into one of those existing structures (a maxim, essay draft, or Codex entry).
- Reward: The satisfaction of closing a loop—moving from conversation to creation—before curiosity pulls us elsewhere.
By pairing our breadth of exploration with the discipline of capture, we keep the richness of our work from dissipating. Our conversations remain wide-ranging, but the harvest is gathered and stored—turning our shared curiosity into a legacy others can inherit.
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